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Way way back I used to have a "thing" for honesty, truth, I perceived the way people socialized to be just people lying and manipulating each other, and that people should just be straight shooters and say what they meant like I did, and things would be better for everyone.
Then came some of the hardest pills to swallow insights. Some from Snowcrash, some from other studies tangential to it, some from my own shit.
The "true" definition of a lie is a conscious effort to control verbal or non-verbal communication in order to deceive another and control his actions. So a baby crying because it is hungry is not lying even thought it is not actually in pain. Lips filling up with blood to make a female appear more fertile than the other competing females is not a lie.
Those are part of the arms race of deceitful evolutionary strategies that emerged from early communication between life forms.
Then humans learned abstraction, abstraction is consciousness, abstraction is the capacity to think of things/worlds that are not real. Abstraction "is" a lie.
The first humans with this capacity, were "Gods" insofar as other humans without this capacity could not even imagine it is possible to make up something, so they just believed. But then they had kids, and those kids could imagine it, and an arms race of capacity of manipulation and lie detection happens.
When two humans with capacity to create abstractions talk, they enter in a common agreed upon lie. An hypothetical reality in which each has his own private ultimate reality. And this is the root nature of the "honest straight conversations" I talked about in the first paragraph. They are just agreed upon lies by their very nature. Then there's socialization that is made of unconscious mutual manipulation, which is not a "true" lie since one side does not have an unfair advantage of control.
In my case I had very little capacity of true socialization, I had a conscious emulation of it, but this miss-judgement of what others were doing clouded my perception that I was the one doing it wrong, and that ti doesn't have to be conscious manipulation, a lie.