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> they usually ration it out because of conflicting positive feelings they have about the person
So you're saying the woman is going out of her way to convince herself that the guy is actually a good guy, not a bad guy.
Look, I know I dunk on women a lot, but it's undeniable that they primarily look for negatives in a man, not positives. They'll do this to the point of making up issues where none exist. So I kinda have a hard time believing this.
Not to mention the point about how women will leave a man for petty reasons. They'll dump a guy for losing his job or being a janitor or owning cats, but won't dump a guy who abuses them because they like him so much? Come on now.
> obviously super ideologically charged
Is it? Guys get called "creepy" for the most mundane shit, but chads will go "Ayo lemme fuck" and be accepted. I don't see any ideology there. Do I need to drop the chadfishing experiments?
> men are guilty of the same thing
The classic "but men do it too". Men fucking up doesn't excuse women fucking up, and bringing it up is just an attempt at getting heat off of women. Not to mention how simps get shit on just like bad women do.
> simply because shes hot
She's average at best, and I'll argue that Hypergamy is making mids get called "hot", but that's another point.
> and smart
I'm holding back hard on this one.
> faulting women for not embodying this homo economicus idea of perfect reason and rationality
I get what you're saying, but it's an extremely low standard to expect women to walk away from abusive men.
In fact, standards for women are already extremely low and they STILL manage to fuck it up.
> will genuinely look down on you for not putting up a facade of hyper masculinity 24/7. try to filter them out
Yes, they need to filter them out, but the problem is when almost all women act this way. You can't show any imperfection, can't drop your guard, or you're out. Seen it happen with my own eyes.
> its not hard for me to believe that she just latched onto this one guy when she was 16.
So out of ALL the guys around her, she somehow "just happened" to get with the ONE abusive guy? Out of ALL the guys around her? Come the fuck on.
Honestly, I'm quite tired of this narrative of the woman being the poor helpless lonely victim, and the evil master manipulator predating on her.
Just don't date abusive men. I'm on the woman's side here. It's really not complicated, just don't date abusive men.
> how would she filter the abuser from the 99% other men.
First of all, it's statistically unlikely that out of all the guys, she'd just happen to pick the one abusive guy.
Secondly, at the first sign of abuse, she should leave him and find a better man. Or shit, just stay single.
Third, apparently women are VERY good at filtering abusive men, because those types of women tend to date multiple abusive men back to back. So clearly SOME active filtering is happening.
It's like the women who are single moms of 5+ and say all men are deadbeats. No, retard, those are just the men YOU picked.