Keep an eye out for this pattern: Men's problems come from outside, while women's problems come from inside.
Take insecurity for example. Men are insecure because falling short in an area will harm his chances of getting a gf\wife. Women are insecure because they're neurotic and obsess over shit that doesn't even matter. They already have the men, and sometimes even lose them because of their obsession.
And yes, secondarily, they obsess over it because they want to be the "best" they can be, because they only care about attracting Chad. But then that goes back to it coming from inside since they're the ones obsessing over Chad.