You're just typical-minding (or typical-lifing, rather). There are a lot of lonely people, probably more now than in the past, but not everyone is lonely. Societal changes didn't completely destroy the possibility of traditional friendship.
> People you hang out with at rationalist meetups
>  > not friends. People who can bear to hear you talk about crazy rat shit that normies wouldn't tolerate, intellectually or morally
I don't get this one. Friends don't count if they're weird? Isn't it about the relationship rather than the person?