No amount of lifting will compensate for less attractive facial features or being short and ethnic (South or East Asian). If the guy from the HuffPost video wasn't so handsome and used valid evolutionary explanations instead of terms communicating adherence to the Blue circles (racial bias, microagressions), he would be instantly silenced as an entitled misogynist.
Most importantly, self-esteem is derived from positive social inputs and having options: you can't really fool your brain - especially if it leans towards being nice and introverted - if you didn't score well at the genetic and economic lottery of life. Especially if the dominant cultural narrative prioritizes women over men in relationships, and if men can be always shamed through the accusations of privilege and toxic masculinity.