The second part what I have not written here yet, is how the events pan out, after the reality hits. Every dance needs two, but since we're writing about women here, I'll write about them chiefly. So things will play out for her depending on if she can cope or not.
I. She can cope.
These women can make compromises, they met with reality, and can work with the hand they were dealt with.
I/A. She met with a strong, independent, decisive man.
1. She will be fine with her subordinate role, fulfilling the orders of her man. Depeding on the man they can live happily ever after, but quite some men like that think they deserve more than one pussy, so they'll screw around. If she is found to be too boring, maybe got ditched. If she is found to be dependable, she'll be still treasured in some way. Some of these women can't bear it and leave the relationship.
2. She will go with the flood and do what's told. Strong, independent, decisive men however know that insignificant questions don't worth their time and attention, and will relegate certain decisions to to the woman, liek what to have for dinner, or what brand of detergent to use. So they do get to decide stuff, this makes them think they have power. Some will be fine reigning in their own corner of queendom, but some will overestimate it, and will challenge the man constantly leading to endless arguments, sometimes till the grave, sometimes until one breaks up the relationship.
I/B. She met with someone whom she can control.
1. With lies and constant pep talks, with whispers into his ears, she builds a man from the material available, whom she can present as The Man to the outside world, someone whom she can be proud of. Someone whose reputation can boost her own social standing too as "First Lady". If the man gets the idea that he built something his misconceptions will be crushed, he will be put back to his place. Some man might ditch her at that point. Some of them really only needed someone else to put his life onto tracks, but others can't exists without a woman propping them up, so they'll seek someone else. In this case the woman will bitch about how she made the man who he is today and that whore took him away, or some shit like that. Some man will look for a "weak" woman, with whom they can fail life together.
1a. Since most people isn't cut ouf for making decisions, men and women, many relationships will fall into the subcategory or a variation of this. Neither of the pair is particularly strong or weak, but it doesn't feel I should introduce an inbetween category, or a I/C. The women will do whisper, she still has the dream of control, and has to go with the instinct, the man sometimes hushes her down, sometimes out of Pride. Sometimes he will take long hours from home, in the pub perhaps drinking after work till late, or digs himself into his work, both to escape from the nagging harpy, even tho she's just a mediocre on that role, and if he could hold the reign stronger, he could step up to the I/A category. But he can't. They'll blunder through life well or worse. They could end up breaking up, but could go till the end.
2. She is okay to be in the leading role to the outside world too. She'll try to submit her man. Some man are just happy to give up the burden of making decisions. But some won't suffer the bossing around and will just leave the relationship.