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> learned my lesson.
Now this is an interesting thing to say.
The process of learning looks like this:
1. do something;
2. get the feedback (positive or negative);
3. reinforce or change #1 depending on the feedback.
So you did something and you got negative feedback, encouraging you to stop that behaviour and/or change it in order to get positive feedback.
Or rephrasing it: they were teaching you to not to say stuff they don't like to hear. Meanwhile they don't care if you don't like to hear their negative feedback.
I don't think they hate you, they just don't respect you, their feelings are more important to them than to think if they hurt yours or not. Even the scenario above, you are the student while they are the teacher.
Obviously in a parent-child scenario, the child is the subordinate role, and yes it is a nice and good thing to respect our parents. But they have to learn that you have opinions they don't like and you say stuff they don't like, and respect it enough to shut up and take it.
Basically they put stress on you and they don't take any. Have to change that so you don't take stress on yourself, and they have to endure.
Optimally there should be a common understanding between the parties and respect, so noone gets offended, noone gets stressed when one speaks his mind.
You could try saying something:
> ok I get that what you are saying but you should accept that I disagree and blahblah...
This is a bit assertive approach.
Btw. Would they harm you in any way? Not necessarily beating, but let's say kick you out from home, or do something as a punishment for standing out for yourself.
Btw 2, you could also say:
> you guys not allowing me to speak my mind is harming me, I feel extremely bad after your reaction, you are hurting me, please stop doing that
This is honest, but it shows you are vulnerable, which reinforces them that they have power over you.
Oh I should have started with explaining power. Oh well.